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If you do what you're expected to do, don't expect an outstanding result, my friend.

Study successful people and you'll sure to discover one thing that many of them would have in common... they live by that words of "always do more than what is expected of you."

I don't care. It could be sleeping an hour less everyday to have more time to build your wealth or whatsoever.

Whether you are mowing people's lawn or someone is mowing your lawn, when you are teaching a seminar or being a participant, or when sharing your knowledge or giving advice to your people, always do or give more than what people expect. Then they will flock around you, they will line up to meet you and be happy to support you in whatever thing that you want to do next.

If you're training to be a champion, don't just train like an average player. Train more than you're expected to train.

If you're building a multi-level marketing business, increase the numbers of prospects you would like to meet everyday. If it used to be 10, now you would have at least 12. By just increasing your effort 20%, you'll end up with 60 new prospects a month. Now, that's what I called exponential.

Trying to win a girl's heart? I'm not surprise that you could be "competing" with three other guys for the same girl. And you can only win if you're giving more than all of them if everyone's equal. I'm not saying giving more money or buying stuff' give love, time or whatever that counts to her.

Whenever you are interacting with people or in a relationship, treat the other party extremely well.

Whatever is expected of you in that relationship, be it with your girlfriend or business partner or client, your spouse or your friend, always do or give more than what is expected of you in that relationship for that is the secret of making it a success.

It is not that you have to do or give a whole lot more; you have to do just a little bit more than the rest. That's it. The 10mm-difference is what Anthony Robbins calls it for you to become outstanding... in any undertaking.

To do this, it's not difficult. But most people are just too lazy to put in the effort. I'm one of them but I'll always keep reminding myself this' winner takes all. There is no second place, my friend. I would rather strive with the extra effort to get #1 because the pay off is many times greater.

Do you remember who the second best basketball player is? Nope. You can remember Michael Jordan because he's #1. In fact, as far as I know, there's no such place as 'the second best basketball player'.

Who's the second fastest runner in the world? Who knows. I just know the #1.

Others have called this 'more than expected attitude' as 'going for the extra mile'. Notice that they don't say the extra 10 miles.

How come?

Because the average persons don't bother to do more than what is expected of them. I know it's sad but that's the truth.

To most people, "always do more than what is expected of you" are mere words and they don"t put substance to it because people are greedy and they just want to do the bare minimum to make money, to make a profit or whatever.

And guess what... successful people are never your average persons.

To be generous and to treat others extremely well, you must come from the perspective of abundance thinking. Then only "always doing more than what is expected of you" will come easy and naturally.

So the next time you are with somebody, or in a business negotiation, or just interacting with another person, ask how can I help you... without even expecting any return.

As the other saying goes-- you have to give, in order to get. In fact, if you want to gather riches you have to be as generous as you can. Touch people's lives profoundly, in ways that they would never forget. Give it forward... help another and that person will help another. Always do more than what is expected of you. Do this and the reward will come to you 10 folds or 100 folds when you are least expecting it.

Do you think you can do more than what you're doing today? Of course you can. The question is... DO YOU WANT OR NOT? You'll have to decide for your own future on that.

Copyright © 2008 Patric Chan

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We have all been there - and been there, and been there.... but I heard someone say once that the only point of learning history is to learn FROM it, not to repeat it.

So why do we constantly repeat the same mistakes in relationships and dating? I have a good idea why. First of all, I don't think that most women know the mistakes they are making. They can be subconscious or unintentional, even when we do them over and over again.

So what are these mistakes? Well, I have picked out five of the top whammies, and laid them out for your eyes. So read on, and learn!

1. Believing that you "understand men"

Let me tell ya, sister - you don't. THEY DON'T understand themselves! Seriously, though, thinking that you have a guy "figured out" is a key mistake that women make, simply because if you think you know what he is thinking or what he is going to do next, then you are actually basing your actions on your OWN beliefs and conceptions (or misconceptions), and not the true nature of the situation.

2. Pretending to be something you are not in order to get him.

Ok - we have all done this. Why - oh why do we do this?? Ladies - I have heard in a song recently that it is better to be hated for who we are than to be loved for who we're not. THAT is the truth. When you pretend to be something you are not, you are not only letting yourself down, but you are setting yourself up for a fall, because one of these days, the mask is going to slip and he is going to see the truth. The TRUE YOU - the one behind that facade is beautiful - but if you show him what you think he wants to see, for however long, he is only going to see the lie that "was" when he looks at you, and not appreciate you for the beauty that you truly have. Got it?

3. Thinking He Has "Potential"

Let me guess - you have met this great guy - and he has "SO MUCH POTENTIAL!" This is the first mistake that many women make when dating or entering a relationship. Picking out a guy based on what you think you can mould him into is a recipe for disaster and heartache, not success.

4. Laying on the "I feels" too quickly

I know, I know - you are giddy about him and want to run into the hills proclaiming your love...etc etc. Grab yourself by the shirtfront and smack yourself around a few times. You may be running into the hills, but he will just plain be RUNNING. Take it slow and BE COOL. The heavier you get, the more you are going to make him squirm, at least in the beginning, especially if you are doing mistake #1 as well! Remember that proverbial carrot? "BE THE CARROT!" Say it with me! "BE THE CARROT". Dangle, entice, lead, make him want to follow you...but don't slap the manacles on as soon as he puts his hands out.

5. Trying to Find Your Personal Happiness Within a Relationship

No relationship is going to make you happy or complete, especially when everything else does not. Ladies, happiness CANNOT come from another person; it has GOT TO come from inside you. Your happiness is a product of your personal satisfaction with your life, with the person you see in the mirror every day and that little voice inside your head that you have to listen to all the time. If you are not comfortable in your own skin, no one is going to be able to make that any better - except for YOU.

These are only 5 mistakes that women make. There are A LOT more. (And don't get me wrong, men screw up too, but hey, we gotta own it to fix it, right?) Christian Carter has nailed 10 of them down in his killer newsletter article "The 10 Most Dangerous Mistakes You Probably Make With Men and What to Do About It". Check out my site if you want to read the whole thing, and keep that ugly past from repeating itself any more.

Remember...BE THE CARROT!

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Source: Dating Advice For Women

1. Is your attitude casual?
Once you win him/her over, your approach may become casual. Once this attitude becomes an every day affair, the relationship suffers and like a brick taken out from a wall a day, the wall of relationship slowly becomes weak and one day collapses to your shock. So, do not keep your attitude casual. Always be loving and caring towards your partner.

2. What are you looking for in your partner?
Many of us actually get confused in this part of building a relationship. What is it that you need from him or her…? Needs or wishes can be in varied forms like physical, friendship, love, etc…
Once you know what precisely you want from your partner and your relationship, your relationship improves immediately. You can then talk to your partner about your needs and find out his/her needs.

3. Avoid Hurry Burry
Many of us hurry to develop a relationship. That fails most of the times. Unless, you give time to make it mature on its own, it will not work. Remember Like wine, let it mature. it will taste better.

4. Happiness - a two way street
Happiness is the primary need of all of us. All of us want to be happy and avoid pain. The beginning of any relationship also depends upon how happy we are with each other. But we also derive happiness from what we achieve on our own.
Make him/her happy and give him/her a chance to make you happy. Let both of you show care for each other

5. Relationships and values
We have values that are dear to us. Some of us never bend the values under any circumstances. Values guide every person in making choices.
Most of the relationships break down because of value conflicts. If both the partners share contrasting values, the relationship is doomed from day one.

6. Do you work on your relationship?
To have a relationship that works, one has to work. Most of you take a relationship for granted once you reach a certain level of intimacy. You assume that you are regular partners. You forget to work on the rough edges and that dooms the relationship to your surprise.
Every relationship is meeting of two individuals who have to love each other, accept each other and learn to live happily with each other and that requires work.

7. Trust in a relationship
Trust means to believe. No relationship can survive without trust. Trust is the foundation on which a relationship is built. If you don't trust a person, howsoever you may love him/her, your relationship will not survive, because you have no trust in him/her.

8. Stop the blame
In such a relationship, everything is ours. It is neither yours nor mine. Its all ours. Even if one partner blunders, the other partner supports him/her. Both experience the joy of each others achievements. The fissure in the 'ours' to 'me and you' gives rise to the beginning of the blame game

To continue with the blame game and living together will not produce any result other than pain. Blames are not the disease but the symptom of the disease that is hurting your relationship.

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